Being Stubborn and Taking My Own Advice – Natural Hair Lessons

Five Year Natural Hair Journey


So.. I guess with this blog I am kind of exposing myself in a way. I admit it, sometimes I can be a little stubborn, or at least in the past. I am one of those people who don’t believe in this is who I am and that’s it. I believe I can be whoever I want to be. If I don’t like something about myself, change it. Why not? Well, that is a whole other topic though.

Back to hair….

My Journey – Short and Sweet

Some of you have read and heard my story about my natural hair journey a thousand times. In the beginning I didn’t know I was going natural. I struggled for the first two and a half years. I literally bought a relaxer for my hair at one point because I had given up. Then with the convincing from the people I love around me, I decided to do some research and found Youtube! Youtube changed my “hair life” LOL! I did tons of research trying to figure out how it all worked. It became a bit confusing, but I later developed my own routine of how to do things which I believe helped me to have success.

Bubble Busted
I know you are probably wondering what does this have to do with me being stubborn????
Ok..for a couple of years I had this awesome regimen that worked like a charm. Everything was perfect..okay not perfect, but it was working out for me. I was retaining length, my hair was transforming, it had sheen, shine, and sometimes had a little bounce. Well.. once I hit my length goal on my four year anniversary it seems that things started to go a little downhill for me. Now, I will say that I wasn’t as disciplined with my hair as I was previously. I experimented a little more. I really wanted to start truly enjoying my hair. Once I was done playing in my hair, I decided to get back to my normal routine. I was sticking to low manipulation. I had my favorite go to products at the time. (Herbal Essence shampoo / conditioner and my Cantu Shea Butter Leave In). I was back on the path to maintaining healthy hair and continuing my journey to growth! HAAAAA! My hair started laughing at me! It was almost like it was getting revenge on me for the many wash and gos, the days of sleeping without pinning my hair down, etc. My must have items and routine was no longer working for me.

Not to toot my own horn, but I have loads of knowledge on hair. *beep beep* (clears throat) LOL! Seriously, I saw my hair suffering a little and I knew what I needed to do. I’ve wrote about this, I’ve talked about this, but for some reason I did not want to accept it. Why do I have to change the things that I do? It worked before. I had plans to spend the rest of my “natural hair life” with this routine and products. There has to be some sort of natural hair reset button, right?! WRONG! It literally took me months to get out of my natural hair regimen box, and start to be open to new products and ideas.

Five Years Natural and READY For Change
So, I hit five years natural September 2013. I had cut my hair earlier that year along with my questionable hair practices, so I started off my fifth year with hair shorter than my fourth year. UH UH Honaaaay! I was not having it. It really made me think about what I was doing. If someone came to me and needed a few tips on how to deal with a similar situation I would speak about the changes that the hair goes through the older it gets. I would talk about how it is actually normal sometimes for you to have to transition into a new routine and maybe switch up a few products. etc. I would talk about examining and breaking down your regimen to find the things that may or may not be working. I had to start taking my own advice again. I decided to try out new products and revamped my hair routine. I’ve watched my hair quickly come back to life. I am back to retaining length like before. My hair looks and feels great! I am truly relieved.

The Point
I always say that there are no rules to this journey. Sometimes you have a perfect “hair day” and sometimes it all feels like a complete failure. It’s just the way that hair works. You could be doing everything that you think is right, but it still may not work out the way you want. Everyone seems to have the “perfect” advice for what YOU should do with YOUR hair. You’ve taken suggestions, you’ve tried all of the magic potions, but nothing seems to work.
Stay patient in your journey. Don’t get too caught up in routine. Don’t get caught up in hype. Stick to doing only what you NEED. This will keep things simple, and and also leave you open to change if things are not working out. Also, don’t give up on your hair when things seems to be on a downward spiral (breakage, dryness, excessive shedding). It may take time to doctor your hair back to good health, but it doesn’t always mean you need to chop it all off to start over, or give up completely on natural hair. Most of my journey I have had to go through a few changes with my routine. Not using that relaxer that day really paid off, and my hair has transformed in ways I never imagined or even thought was possible.

You Can Do This!

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4 thoughts on “Being Stubborn and Taking My Own Advice – Natural Hair Lessons

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  1. Excellent advice my dear, thank you very very much 🙂 have and will always love and admire your hair, you are a hard worker so keep the pots coming and keep us informed of how to take care of our natural tresses 🙂

  2. Extremely motivational and encouraging post! I appreciate the knowledge and experience you have acquired over the years and the fact that you generously share it with the rest of us to help us along in our journeys.

  3. I have been following your blog and YouTube channel for a couple of years, you are an inspiration. Currently I have shoulder length, kinky, frizzy, wavy natural hair, not too many curls in sight. I just took out mini twists and want to put them in again. When you went thru your mini twist “phase” (smile) how long did you keep them in? I really want to challenge myself and get past the shoulder length plateau. Thanks Alicia!

  4. So what can you tell me about thinking spots from using to much heat on my hairwhen I only want wear it strait to in a natural styles.

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